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The big red barn on the King family farm in New Hampshire.
The big red barn on the King family farm in New Hampshire.

The big red barn on my family’s farm was built in the 1880’s.

The wood beams (almost nine feet off the ground), were wide enough for my mom, her siblings and a few other kids from nearby homes to run along. One of their favorite games was a modified sort of dodge ball with one person standing on the barn floor taking aim at the others running on the beams.

It was not safe. But...it was a lot of fun.

As kids ourselves, my brother and I tried to imitate this game in the barn and my mother soon got upset with whichever one of our uncles had told us about it.

My brother and I climbed trees much higher than reasonably advisable and spent hours wandering in the woods unsupervised. During the winter we built “jumps” for sledding runs that were dangerous enough that they routinely spilt blood.

Minor injuries were a regular part of our play. And, still, it was fun.

Like many parents, there were days when my mom had to turn off the TV and shove her kids out the door. Sure, it was (momentarily) painful for (mini)me when I missed an episode of Tail Spin or Dark Wing Duck, but now that I'm grown, I am ever grateful for the encouragement my parents gave us to just go play — even if it meant my mother had to make more than infrequent trips to the emergency room.

Lenore Skenazy, host of Discovery Channels World’s Worst Mom, wrote Friday in the Wall Street Journal about the troubling trend of kids not getting the chance to play anymore:

A new study of how preschoolers spend their days may make you want to run around screaming, which is apparently more than the tykes themselves get to do. After interviewing child-care providers from 34 very different Cincinnati-area centers — urban to suburban, Head Start to high income — researchers found that kids spend an average of only 2 percent to 3 percent of their day in "vigorous activities."

Can you imagine that? Children spending 97 percent of their day not running around? It's like a desk job, except with cookie time. Excuse me — apple time. When you consider that three-quarters of American kids aged 3 to 5 are in some kind of preschool program and a lot of them come home only to eat, sleep and go back again, this is beyond sad — it's bad. Bad for their bodies, their brains, their blubber. Baddest of all are the reasons behind this institutionalized atrophy: The quest for ever more safety and education.

Skenazy deals with some of the developmental opportunities that are lost when they're replaced by too much quiet, safe and structured time.

But disappearing play time is not just a problem of pre-schoolers.

Dr. David Naugle of Dallas Baptist University wrote over at Q Ideas about the problem Christians have with play. He notes that some of Christianity’s most prominent detractors criticized the faith for its adherents lack of joy. Naugle makes an argument from natural theology that:

The universal and transcultural fact is that children are natural born players. This well-attested observation is sufficient in and of itself to establish the idea that play is an indelible characteristic of human beings which persists well beyond childhood, though in different forms. Though some feared if children played as children, they would also play as adults, the reverse is undoubtedly wiser: if children don’t play as children, then they won’t be able to play as adults.

As to a scriptural basis Naugle points to the Sabbath as a “thankful enjoyment of the world” and related to the biblical concepts of both food and festival. In scripture, a pattern of regular celebration and thankfulness lays a foundation for understanding and appreciating play. Naugle says descriptions of Jesus are evidence that Christ was far from a humorless or dour figure:

When we add to the evidence from Jesus’ friendships ("a friend of tax-gatherers and sinners” — Luke 7:34), His frequent celebrations and dinner parties (“the Son of Man has come eating and drinking” — Luke 7:34), and His attendance at a festive wedding where He turned water into wine (John 2: 1-2), we cannot but help get a fresh impression of the festive nature and delightful personality of Jesus. His convivial lifestyle contributes significantly to a biblical theology of play.

Naugle makes the case that play matters from a faith perspective and Skenazy from developmental context. From either approach, play doesn’t just matter, it’s essential to who we are.

All that is to say: Enjoy your weekend.

Go play.

Tim King is Communications Director for Sojourners. Follow Tim on Twitter @TMKing.

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by: scat

01-28-2012 @ 7:45pm

Times have changed. When I was about 7 or 8 I announced to the neighborhood that I was going to ride my bike down the "big hill" , no hands and no feet. No one tried to stop this. They all just gathered at the bottom of the hill, watching me careen down the hill into a big tree. All I got was skinned knees and hurt pride.

by: thevanished

01-28-2012 @ 10:47pm

Most of the Christian parents I know set strict limits on TV and video games, but allow for much more play in general. Most home schooled kids have far more "recess" time because the school day is much shorter.

I agree with the premise of the article, though. I feel like the late 80s and early 90s was sort of a turning point. Thanks to a few high-profile cases, there was increase awareness of kidnapping and sexual assault. Rates of assault haven't decreased, but now kids have diabetes.

by: timothyking

01-30-2012 @ 10:37am
in reply to: thevanished

Right on. That's one of the big benefits of homeschooling. My parents homeschooled 3 out 4 of their kids at some point (I was homeschooled for two years in high school) and a lot more time is able to be dedicated to extra-curricular activities... including play.

 

by: Squeaky

01-29-2012 @ 9:18am

Scat is sitting at -2 and The Vanished at -1. Neither of them violated the Code of Conduct or said anything that was even the least bit worthy of negative votes.

I've noticed this a lot--people getting negative votes for no other reason than whoever voted didn't agree with their point of view. Back in the day, there was a time when we had this ability, and people were pretty good about only giving negative feedback if the person's post violated the Code of Conduct.

The other iterations of voting systems I've seen is the ability to like a post (not dislike, but along with that the ability to flag posts that were in violation, to keep posters accountable). For a time, we could also see a list of names of those who liked a post. This brought more accountability to the voting system.

This current voting system seems to only bring more incivility. This isn't a flaw in the system--it's a great feature, and I appreciate it. The problem is ours because we are abusing it. On a Christian site, we should be using it in a way that is positive instead of knocking people down who make a point we don't agree with. That's just rude.

If you don't agree with someone, engage that person in conversation. Or please just move on.

by: scat

01-29-2012 @ 10:50pm
in reply to: Squeaky

Squeaky -- I've noticed the same thing.  IT seems to be more based on who is making a comment rather than what is being said.  I expect I have annoyed someone who can't deal with it head-on, so they give me a lot of negatives.  Either that or my remark is seen as encouraging 7 year-olds to drive thier bikes recklessly. This up or down voting system has become meaningless.  Ironically, it falls in the realm of childish pranks.  Not very creative, not like back when I was a kid and we ..............

by: Sam Hamilton

01-30-2012 @ 8:41am
in reply to: Squeaky

Yeah, I don't understand why some comments are receiving negative votes.  On another thread I got negative votes for thanking someone for a reply and so did duhsciple.  People seem to give negative votes to people whose opinions they don't agree with.  If someone disagrees with what another wrote he or she should either write a response or let it rest.  I think negative votes should be reserved for people who are rude, call names, make negative accusations without evidence to back it up, violate the code of conduct, etc.

 

FYI...to Sojourners:  This is not a criticism of the "like/dislike" feature, just a criticism of how people are using it.  I like the general concept.

by: Sam Hamilton

01-30-2012 @ 9:14am

"The quest for ever more safety and education."

One of the blogs I read pushes back against the societal trend of trying to protect kids from any potential threat or "threat." I recommend it. It's called Free Range Kids.

http://freerangekids.wordpress.com/

In the words of the blog creator:

"I started this site for anyone who thinks that kids need a little more freedom and would like to connect to people who feel the same way.  We are not daredevils. We believe in life jackets and bike helmets and air bags. But we also believe in independence.  Children, like chickens, deserve a life outside the cage. The overprotected life is stunting and stifling, not to mention boring for all concerned.  So here’s to Free Range Kids, raised by Free Range Parents willing to take some heat. I hope this web site encourages us all to think outside the house."

It's a response to the over-protective parents, doom and gloom media, profit-hungry merchandizers and safety-obsessed bureacracies that seem to dominate our society.  But it also has some great stories of parents pushing back and changing their communities.

by: Peace_and_Joy

01-30-2012 @ 9:14am

Tim, Because of your post, when your little buddy Matthew asked if he could go outside and jump out of a tree over top of a chair, I said, "Okay," when I normally would have said "No way!" So your post has already had an effect on one mom. I just told him to try to avoid landing on his arm since that's how I broke mine!

by: scat

01-31-2012 @ 11:23pm
in reply to: Peace_and_Joy

Learning how to fall without getting injured is a good thing!  An old saying -- "No one ever learned how to ski without falling down a lot." 

by: scat

01-31-2012 @ 12:51am

This has reminded me of things I had not thought about for a long time. We lived in very stable neighborhood and everyone on the block knew everyone else. Mostly we kids spent our time in someone's yard or went from yard to yard playing games. There were trees to climb, hills to challenge on bikes and skates. There was a high school, church and grade school one block over and we skated on the ice rinks there and played on the playground equipment.

Two of us were breifly abducted. We broke away and ran home and I dont' think either of us was worse for the experience. In fact I think I gained a sense of being able to take care of myself and extract myself from a threatening situation as a result of that experience. No one made a big deal out of it and it didn't change our lives at all. It's not something I would recommend, but not every scary childhood experience needs to be traumatizing.

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by: scat

01-28-2012 @ 7:45pm

Times have changed. When I was about 7 or 8 I announced to the neighborhood that I was going to ride my bike down the "big hill" , no hands and no feet. No one tried to stop this. They all just gathered at the bottom of the hill, watching me careen down the hill into a big tree. All I got was skinned knees and hurt pride.

by: thevanished

01-28-2012 @ 10:47pm

Most of the Christian parents I know set strict limits on TV and video games, but allow for much more play in general. Most home schooled kids have far more "recess" time because the school day is much shorter.

I agree with the premise of the article, though. I feel like the late 80s and early 90s was sort of a turning point. Thanks to a few high-profile cases, there was increase awareness of kidnapping and sexual assault. Rates of assault haven't decreased, but now kids have diabetes.

by: Squeaky

01-29-2012 @ 9:18am

Scat is sitting at -2 and The Vanished at -1. Neither of them violated the Code of Conduct or said anything that was even the least bit worthy of negative votes.

I've noticed this a lot--people getting negative votes for no other reason than whoever voted didn't agree with their point of view. Back in the day, there was a time when we had this ability, and people were pretty good about only giving negative feedback if the person's post violated the Code of Conduct.

The other iterations of voting systems I've seen is the ability to like a post (not dislike, but along with that the ability to flag posts that were in violation, to keep posters accountable). For a time, we could also see a list of names of those who liked a post. This brought more accountability to the voting system.

This current voting system seems to only bring more incivility. This isn't a flaw in the system--it's a great feature, and I appreciate it. The problem is ours because we are abusing it. On a Christian site, we should be using it in a way that is positive instead of knocking people down who make a point we don't agree with. That's just rude.

If you don't agree with someone, engage that person in conversation. Or please just move on.

by: Sam Hamilton

01-30-2012 @ 8:41am
in reply to: Squeaky

Yeah, I don't understand why some comments are receiving negative votes.  On another thread I got negative votes for thanking someone for a reply and so did duhsciple.  People seem to give negative votes to people whose opinions they don't agree with.  If someone disagrees with what another wrote he or she should either write a response or let it rest.  I think negative votes should be reserved for people who are rude, call names, make negative accusations without evidence to back it up, violate the code of conduct, etc.

 

FYI...to Sojourners:  This is not a criticism of the "like/dislike" feature, just a criticism of how people are using it.  I like the general concept.

by: timothyking

01-30-2012 @ 10:37am
in reply to: thevanished

Right on. That's one of the big benefits of homeschooling. My parents homeschooled 3 out 4 of their kids at some point (I was homeschooled for two years in high school) and a lot more time is able to be dedicated to extra-curricular activities... including play.

 

by: scat

01-29-2012 @ 10:50pm
in reply to: Squeaky

Squeaky -- I've noticed the same thing.  IT seems to be more based on who is making a comment rather than what is being said.  I expect I have annoyed someone who can't deal with it head-on, so they give me a lot of negatives.  Either that or my remark is seen as encouraging 7 year-olds to drive thier bikes recklessly. This up or down voting system has become meaningless.  Ironically, it falls in the realm of childish pranks.  Not very creative, not like back when I was a kid and we ..............

by: Peace_and_Joy

01-30-2012 @ 9:14am

Tim, Because of your post, when your little buddy Matthew asked if he could go outside and jump out of a tree over top of a chair, I said, "Okay," when I normally would have said "No way!" So your post has already had an effect on one mom. I just told him to try to avoid landing on his arm since that's how I broke mine!

by: Sam Hamilton

01-30-2012 @ 9:14am

"The quest for ever more safety and education."

One of the blogs I read pushes back against the societal trend of trying to protect kids from any potential threat or "threat." I recommend it. It's called Free Range Kids.

http://freerangekids.wordpress.com/

In the words of the blog creator:

"I started this site for anyone who thinks that kids need a little more freedom and would like to connect to people who feel the same way.  We are not daredevils. We believe in life jackets and bike helmets and air bags. But we also believe in independence.  Children, like chickens, deserve a life outside the cage. The overprotected life is stunting and stifling, not to mention boring for all concerned.  So here’s to Free Range Kids, raised by Free Range Parents willing to take some heat. I hope this web site encourages us all to think outside the house."

It's a response to the over-protective parents, doom and gloom media, profit-hungry merchandizers and safety-obsessed bureacracies that seem to dominate our society.  But it also has some great stories of parents pushing back and changing their communities.

by: scat

01-31-2012 @ 12:51am

This has reminded me of things I had not thought about for a long time. We lived in very stable neighborhood and everyone on the block knew everyone else. Mostly we kids spent our time in someone's yard or went from yard to yard playing games. There were trees to climb, hills to challenge on bikes and skates. There was a high school, church and grade school one block over and we skated on the ice rinks there and played on the playground equipment.

Two of us were breifly abducted. We broke away and ran home and I dont' think either of us was worse for the experience. In fact I think I gained a sense of being able to take care of myself and extract myself from a threatening situation as a result of that experience. No one made a big deal out of it and it didn't change our lives at all. It's not something I would recommend, but not every scary childhood experience needs to be traumatizing.

by: scat

01-31-2012 @ 11:23pm
in reply to: Peace_and_Joy

Learning how to fall without getting injured is a good thing!  An old saying -- "No one ever learned how to ski without falling down a lot."